Good "Advices": Sexism and Shame

"Ang mga lalaki, hindi mageeffort kung walang gusto sa isang babae 'yan.  Dahil sadyang tamad ang mga lalaki." ("Guys won't put out any effort if they don't like a girl, because guys are lazy.")

"Ang mga babae, gusto nila 'yung sense of belongingness.  Gusto nila pinapakilala sila sa pamilya mo, sa mga friends mo.  Gusto nila 'yung feeling na ginagawa mo siyang bahagi ng buhay mo.  Siguro mababaw lang para sa'yo pero malaking bagay sa kanila yan." (Girls like a sense of belonging.  They like when you introduce them to your family and friends.  They like the feeling that you are making them part of your life.  It's probably petty for you but it's a big thing for them.")

These are two of the many quotations currently circulating on the internet that are credited to Love Radio DJ Papa Jack.  His wildly popular segment, which consists mostly of him ridiculing and demeaning his callers, is called True Love Conversation -- often ironically shortened to "TLC."

communication: let's talk about it

note:  I wrote this for my Creative Writing 10 class over the summer.  The original blog post, along with links to those of my classmates who wrote about their respective fields and interests, can be found here.

“Girlfriend mo na ba ‘ko?”

“Ayoko nga!  Demanding ang mga girlfriend.  Gusto gan’to, gusto ganyan!  Ewan.”

“Gusto ko lang naman ng McDo fries, eh.”

These lines from a commercial for the fast food chain McDonald’s best illustrate the major point of George Homans’ Social Exchange Theory: people in relationships seek to gain maximum rewards at minimum costs.  Rewards and costs can constitute anything from financial support, to a feeling of acceptance, to an order of fries.  The McDonald’s commercial featuring two preschool kids debating the status of their relationship concludes thusly: all the girl wants is fries, and the little boy, after making the life-changing realization that love can be bought, has his first girlfriend.